sexual disorder

Am I suffering from a lack of sex drive?

Laura approached Carlos and began to caress his leg in a suggestive manner, but Carlos pushed her away. Laura became annoyed and said, “We haven’t had sex in 2 weeks. Don’t you feel like it again?” Then, in the end, she went into another room to watch TV. In the meanwhile, Carlos sat on the edge of the bed, feeling guilty and embarrassed. But he didn’t feel like it. It’s not something that can be forced. The couple retired to bed feeling both sad and frustrated.  

It is clearly not a pleasant subject and it can sometimes even be taboo to speak about it, but a loss of libido or a lack of desire in men may have a more negative effect on the couple’s relationship than any other sexual dysfunction

A lack of sexual drive can affect both women and men. But, according to experts, the problem arises from the biological fact of linking one’s masculinity to one’s sexuality, and seeing its full effect on the individual may create a greater level of suffering and distress.

Furthermore, the quality of life of a male patient who is suffering from a lack of sexual drive is more negatively affected than that of a woman. According to Edward Laumann, a Professor in Sociology at the University of Chicago, only around 23% of men who have lost their sexual drive admit to being very happy with their daily lives, while for women, this percentage rises to 46%, which is twice that figure.

But, in order to be able to treat the problem it first needs to be diagnosed, and to do this, it is essential to know if you suffer from a loss of sexual drive.  

A person’s libido does not appear and disappear just like that, and the frequency of sex is not the best way to know this.

 

For this reason, it is advisable to ask yourself if the following statements are true or false for you: 

  • You rarely have sexual thoughts or fantasies about your wife or any other woman.
  • You no longer feel like having sex 
  • You only have sexual relations in the bedroom 
  • You  only have sex once or twice a month
  • Sex is a routine 

If you answered yes to any of the above statements, it is very probable that you are suffering from a lack of sexual drive.